It's been six months and a week that we have been back in the US. Sure wish we would have had warning as to how tough it was going to be. I think we were so excited about getting back to our home we overlooked the fact that this would be a huge transition for us.
I have heard friends talk about how hard moving to retirement is, I just assumed we would breeze through. Boy, was I wrong!
What could be so hard about moving back? It is Kansas after all. I figured after moving to Germany- back to KS would be so simple.
Jim started a new job yesterday and though we are still struggling to get in a routine, I think we have to be through the worst of it!
A few things I have learned in the last six months...
Most things in life take time. Patience.
Before we moved, our business was thriving with a demand that I could not keep up with. Even after working 10+ hours a day usually seven days a week {with Jim working weekends as well}, I was still turning away work. Putting it on hold for four years, I knew I needed time to get it up and re-launched.
It has been slow to kick in which is ok, but not when the bills are kicking in too.
Without the support of our family, this transition would have been so much more difficult. There's no way we could have done it. Just being in the same time zone {for starters} has been really quite wonderful. We feel so blessed.
Our boys are our world.
Being able to see all four of them thrive right now is such a wonderful sight. Caden's teacher said it is as if he has always been in Mulvane- not the typical new kid trying to figure things out. Coleman has made so many friends as well. Their biggest complaint is riding the bus {which picks them up at 6:30...yikes}. Caden just finished his football season and both started basketball this week.
We are not sure how the grades are going but Ty is having a blast at Wichita State already. He has moved into a fraternity house {with a GPA standard in order to live there}, declared engineering as his major and playing intermural volleyball.
It's only 30 minutes up the road, but he's able to do his own thing. It is nice to see him getting involved and having fun.
Along with the above mentioned positives, being able to see Justin almost every weekend has made this retirement and transition worth every fight and tear.
We have put some miles and long hours between here and Arkansas, but we have loved every single weekend.
His team is doing well {4-1 in conference} putting on some of the most exciting football you can find.
The family and friends who have supported him going to and watching games has been incredible- thank you!
A strong marriage makes it through the ups and downs. While this has been the toughest time of our entire marriage, there is no one in this world that I would rather have by my side. I still feel so lucky every single day to not only have found the love of my life but to be so in love.
One day at a time is best.
That's what we are trying to do. Some days, it's just making it through.
Most days, it is enjoying and trying to focus on the things that really matter while letting go of the little {petty} things. Things are looking up.
